Remember Mama & Daddy Are Usually Right …
I’ve certainly watched quite a bit of my fair share of time travel movies and series’ over the years both on Netflix, cartoons, and any other medium. In different series, characters always go back to the past or they go to the future and occasionally meet their past or future versions. Adhering to what we think are temporal guidelines and not stepping into a paradox or even throwing the time travel rules completely out the window — it usually bodes well or goes horribly awry. And I thought how awesome would that be!
Do you ever sometimes look at old photographs and be surprised at how long ago that “self” feels like? Maybe you were skinnier, with braces, innocent-looking, wet behind the ears? Well, if you could go back in time and talk to your younger self, what are some of the things you would say? Some of it might go like this:
1 | Save and Invest
I started saving and investing early in life by working with Dad building houses over the summer and Mom taking me in the 1980s to get a $1000 10.5% bank CD. Those were the days under Reagan! She also helped me establish credit as I was going off to college and a bank account. In fact, I now enjoy almost 28 years of super great credit scores because of her.
Because I had these financial responsibilities and having that mindset early on extraordinarily helped guide my saving and good stewardship to this day. No matter how small the amount of cash, equipment, or even foodstuffs that you put away for a rainy day, it truly is some practical and useful advice.
2 | Travel More
That being said, if you learn to portion your money, live by a budget, or just make fiscal decisions that are rooted in common sense, then travel might be in your future. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or international. Travel around your hometown, your own city, your own country. There’s so much to see. I know it can get expensive real quick but having a cheap/economic plan is not impossible.
Traveling opens our mind and heart to the realities of life, makes us more accepting of situations and circumstances we may find ourselves or others in – things that we don’t learn in classrooms, things that are essential as we carry on into adulthood.
3 | Embrace Change – Time to Destress
I suppose it stems from when I used to upgrade my first computer in 1990 with the latest and greatest software. Invariably something would cause a BSOD (blue screen of death). I would have to go into the config.sys and autoexec.bat and one by one narrow down the program, reload the BIOS, remove the offending hardware drivers, etc. Uggh! I now rarely upgrade my phone or my apps.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it right? This is fine for material things, but life certainly does change, circumstances do shift and all of this comes from an “adult” life. Mounting overdue bills, a grave disease, becoming a parent, losing a loved one – these changes can be nothing short of challenging to say the least. Why … even a long-time job isn’t the same now as it once was. “Going with the flow” and dealing with change as it comes along is best.
We’ve all heard a multitude of times “don’t worry what others think” and scripture says not to covet anything others have that you don’t quite have yet. Fortunately, I’ve never wanted what my peers already have. Don’t take things so personally. It’s hard to do this especially if you’re an introverted, sensitive soul and not all too “jokey”. I think my younger self would be much better off if he was a little more humorous and not so sensitive. Taking things personally may make you a more empathetic person but also causes great stress as well. I’d like to think I was quite witty and entertaining in my own way though.
4 | Be Resilient
It doesn’t have to be! When you think about it (when you REALLY think about it) there are more good things … good times than bad ones. Our problems and challenges last year no longer exist. The things that we experienced five years ago that we thought were the worst ever now seem to be just another learning experience. Trivial even what might have happened 10 minutes ago.
5 | Start a Healthy Habit
We’re all creatures of habit and if you could go back, some would probably tell themselves to have better eating habits, skin care habits, and spiritual as well as mental ones. A healthy habit for self-care and growth is important in the continual care of our physical self, spiritual state, and mental health. We have more worries and more challenges as we become independent and grow into adulthood and these things take a toll on our body, mind, and spirit. Keep yourself centered and above all practice good mental health.
6 | Surround Yourself with Good People
Finding your tribe – that small but trustworthy, kind, and positive troupe is most important as you go through life. It’s said that the five people you most frequently hang out with influence you and your outlook on life.
Having a good support system is essential in helping us map out our life choices, guiding us when we fail, telling us we’re wrong, telling us when we’re right. Just be with people you’re the most comfortable with; for many of us that’s our families … but not for all of us.
7 | Choose First Kindness, Always
The instant we focus on others is the moment when we don’t concentrate on ourselves. Think of it as a mini-break from our so-called problems. You don’t always have to win the race. Sometimes competition is unhealthy and for fools. When in doubt, always choose kindness and see what results from it.